WILLEMSTAD – It’s been over three weeks that I married the man of my dreams. I’m still on cloud nine and am grateful to have found a life partner that compliments my best qualities. My prayers were answered in a wonderful and specific way that still baffles me. That’s how great our God is.
The preparations were nerve racking, but we look back at the roller-coaster ride with gratitude. During Weddings, like funerals, you get to know your real friends and family. In the end, we had an unforgettable day filled with love and laughter, surrounded by our loved ones.
As we were preparing for our reveal, I sent my husband a cheeky gift, in case he needed a final incentive to walk down the aisle. We did a spicy photo shoot to capture all my gorgeousness and document how I’m entering this marriage and how much work that entails. I believe that women are like delicate flowers that need careful tending. Give your woman abundant love, affection and attention and she will always feel like sexiest woman alive. It’s not that we need constant adulation to have high self-esteem, however a woman that is and feels loved always radiates. And that’s what keeps us feeling young and sexy and ON POINT. I always say, “Tin hòmber tin dede di pispis, tur muhé ku nan a mishi ku n’e a marchitá”. Some men just don’t have green thumbs, every woman they ever touched eventually withered.
Curaçao women are awesome and beautiful. Period. We are not too big, black, ghetto, loud, angry or need to be compared with others. We own our curves and tend to walk around like colorful peacocks. We are guilty of sometimes wanting to match even our hair color to our outfits. We are hardworking and resourceful, raise our families and have held it down for generations. And we love our Krioyo men, who are good and responsible, compassionate, funny and seductively confident.
Some said, “finally’, when I announced our engagement, like finding a man is a life achievement, but believe me its’ not. Our life goals should be to lead fulfilled lives that are permeated with joy and love, supported by an authentic sense of self, where hopefully we don’t lose ourselves in work, marriages or relationships. Some women have an unbelievable ability to pick ‘project’ men and kiss so many frogs, in hopes one morphs into a prince one day. Ladies, its oke to put yourself first. If the relationship is not working and you know you fought hard to make it work, let it go.
Finding true love was journey of self-exploration and waiting for God’s best. It didn’t happen overnight and it took a village of praying women who stood with me through this process. Everybody that knows me, knows that I never compromised or settled. I always knew what I wanted in a man a kept looking for it till I found it. I didn’t make excuses and was very good at letting people go. Not because they were bad, but because they weren’t what God had intended for me.
And I almost missed my blessing by dippin’ and doing – in my Wendy Williams voice – running around and trying to fill that void. When I finally stood still and listened, I saw him. He was standing in front of me for two whole years and I didn’t see him. We almost broke a Kardashian record with our relationship, because we didn’t beat around the bush. Instead we talked, traveled and prayed together and truly had a whirlwind romance.
So yes, true love is possible at any age and size. Embrace that you are a BBW of skinny as a ‘pal’i lele’ (a stick).
No, it’s never too late and noooo there is nothing wrong with you.
Be the best version of yourself, work on YOU first and be open to receive God’s best. Misery loves company, so beware of broken people. They attract each other and have dysfunctional relationships.
Enjoy the pictures, my husband sure did!